i hate the idea of invalidating anybody but the concept of using the lesbian label when u ARE attracted to men is really confusing. i understand that people are citing the split attraction model but even if you’re homoromantic or homosexual as well as having a bi identity, (1/5)

i thought the term lesbian is very specifically the romantic and sexual attraction to only women, which includes nb people who are woman-aligned. i’m really trying to understand other perspectives, but i spent 2 decades struggling with comphet and now people are saying that (2/5)

lesbians can be attracted to men, and i guess that just feels super invalidating? like, are people saying bi lesbian to indicate a preference? bc if you’re bi and have a strong leaning towards women, then ur still a bi person, preferences are normal! i’m just confused guys. (3/5)

if lesbian now means u can still be attracted to men, whether sexually or romantically, then the label i spent so long figuring out virtually means nothing now. is there no longer a word for being solely wlw then? i want to respect the labels feel comfortable in and at the (4/5)

same time, i want to be able to find community with people who share my identity and life experiences. i use the label lesbian because i don’t like men at all and that’s what i thought it meant. i’m just feeling so torn and kinda sad and really misunderstood. that’s all. (5/5)

*the labels people feel comfortable in

excuse all the typos i totally typed this thread out at lightning speed