oh no the 'is she hot or is she just mean to you' tweet is hitting critical mass on my timeline

some time ago a very smart friend told me that a person's quest for love can often be a search for the kind of pain that's most familiar

unfortunately my first serious relationship was extremely abusive and that set me up for most of the ones that came after it. that same sharp-edged personality that produced high highs, but low lows. that one that makes you feel like a million bucks, then worthless trash

it sucks looking back on a lifetime of poor partner choices realizing that i was drawn to personalities that did not give a fuck about me. i was a vehicle for them to feel better about themselves, and a punching bag, both literally and figuratively, when they didn't

but the good news is, once you can identify that, you can make better choices. you deserve kindness and consideration and boundaries and support. don't waste your time on people who don't care about your wellbeing and deprioritize you