Podcast: On setting Boundaries

Setting boundaries is not about forcing change on other people or thelling them what they can or they can't do. That is their responsibility. Your responsibility is what you're gonna do if they cross your boundary.

We have choice of staying or leaving. We have to be aware of what we are willing to suffer from.

You might open up your boundaries to other people you have any kind of relationship in a way that doesn't blame. Like "youre like this youre always blabla". It must be "I feel this when you do that. So to take care of myself, I will do this when you do that."

And boundaries are subjective. And that variance from one persom to another needs to be respected.

And when you say you're gonna do this when otjer people do that, you have to be true to your word. That way, you teach other people how to treat you. That is important. The maintenance of the boundaries is as important as setting it.

Setting boundaries is between you and yourself. Not about anyone.

If anyone crosses your boundaries, its your job to communicate with them about that.

It is important to honor your truth. Be authentic and express your truth. You can't take responsibility for how others react or respond.

We have always thought that relationships require harmony at all cost. That we hold back too much of our thoughts and feelings just to keep the peace. But relationships must be focused on truth and communication at all cost.

Think of relationship as a container holding your truth and the other person's truth. No overlapping. No truth needs to be on top of the other. Truths just need to be acknowledged.

Conflict is just the highlight of differences.

Say no with grace and gratitude. Don't feel bad for saying no. That way, you can say yes to things you really want instead of living with regret bc of doing something you just for any reasons except your own pleasure.

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