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Growing up, I’d thought that the way to get someone to love you was to love them absolutely, selflessly and so passionately that you loose yourself in the process. The effect was that I learned to love others and forgot to learn how to love or care for myself. And guess what?! 
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It never paid off. I spent my all loving one after the other, thinking that maybe, just maybe, if I loved this one harder, she would see it and feel the need to love me back. I didn’t understand how you could love someone so much and make them see it, and they won’t reciprocate.
I felt the natural reaction to being loved was to love back. So, time after time, I got hurt and disappointed and it got so bad I got used to not being loved back so, I stopped expecting, I just loved people for them because I knew there was nothing in it for me. The irony is...
all those people knew I loved them, they were in fact, all awed by it. But somehow, they couldn’t love me back the same way because I didn’t give them a reason to. I didn’t show them how to love me, that I was worth loving. I just learnt and settled for being the giver alone.
The last woman I fell in love with, when I met her, I asked her not to love me back. Her role was just to sit back and be loved without returning it. I said that as a defense because I wasn’t expecting her to love me back anyway; they never do. Today, I am where I am, incapable
of loving myself, incapable of expecting to be loved. And deep within me, I’ve made peace with that fate, so I learned instead how to be alone, an art I’ve mastered almost to the point of perfection. But, this all started with me, having a twisted understanding as to how
love works.
Learn to love yourself before it is too late. Learn to prioritize your interest as a person because at the end of the day, it is through the love you show that you have for yourself, that others can be attracted to loving you truly without manipulating or using you.
Learn to love yourself before it is too late. Learn to prioritize your interest as a person because at the end of the day, it is through the love you show that you have for yourself, that others can be attracted to loving you truly without manipulating or using you.
Don’t settle for what you don’t deserve because you’re scared that no one else will accept you or you won’t find the spark again. In loving yourself, you become more attractive and that true love will come because you attracted it by being your awesome self and not by someone
else’s pity. It is better to love yourself and be by yourself than for you to settle for a toxic or unhealthy relationship where you’re not valued enough or loved rightly, out of paranoia or low self esteem.
I hope this meets that person that needs to see this so as to summon
I hope this meets that person that needs to see this so as to summon
the courage to walk away and love himself or herself. The best way to build a healthy relationship, is when both parties are healthy enough in the value they place on themselves, and teach each other to love each other better.
Good afternoon!
Good afternoon!
