i have no idea what people mean when they say queer m/f pairings are basically straight because… listen. if you’re a queer who has been surrounded by cis straight people in a social setting (and you must have, at least once in your life) HOW do you not feel the difference???

like even if you’re a bi woman who exclusively dates (straight) men, which is very normal given sheer probability + heteronormativity, the fact that you CAN be attracted to people other than men definitely colors your existing relationships and ideas about love and sexuality.

plus, lots of straight women have this notion of sisterhood, borne from the trauma of how they, their mothers, their grandmothers have existed in relation to men throughout history. romance is always a little adversarial. that breaks down quickly in the face of wlw attraction.

sorry, i can only pretty much speak to the experience of ‘womanhood’ given that i’ve more or less resided here since i was tossed in the box at birth.

not to mention that finding both masculinity and femininity attractive means you probably won’t be interested in the same men/women that straight people are… almost every bi/pan person i know is way more thirsty for masculine women and feminine men than your average straight.

ANYWAY. THIS IS A BI/PAN CELEBRATION TWEET. i am celebrating all my bi/pan friends, with especial to those who are in m/f relationships or have predominantly been in m/f relationships. if anyone dares quarrel with your claim to queerness i’ll eat them alive. i love you