Can I briefly muse about dreams and discernment, chiefly knowing who to trust with sharing of your dreams, goals and biggest wants & wishes?

I’ve always been a unwieldy, unruly, big picture kind of dreamer. No vision of my life encompassed dreaming safe or conservatively. And I’ve always been told from the very beginning to be more practical or realistic.

Which means I’ve had a lot of practice in being told what I wanted for myself was a fantasy and I needed to come down out of the clouds. The truth is: not everyone will be on board for your dreams.

Some folk will tell you your dreams are unwise or impossible. They won’t get it or what you’re trying to do or become. They’ll discourage you and not be supportive in the ways you need. This truth ~really~ hurts when it comes from people you love and cherish. But it’s life.

I’ve learned to keep more for myself. Be more guarded. When my dreams are in their infancy and are still new especially, they are precious. Rugged and raw. I’m more sensitive to feedback or opinions. It’s okay to keep things for just you for awhile.

Knowing who to share with? Can be a gamble either way. You don’t know how folk will react. But the goal is be strong enough in those dreams of yours that even if a friend, family member or colleague aren’t on board it won’t deter you anyway. It’s just becomes extra information.

The key thing though as far as discernment, for me, has been about learning whose opinions to weigh more heavily. Who to trust with sharing. Like is this person actively prioritizing their healing? Are they reaching for their dreams? Are they being brave in their own life?

It’s really hard for most people who aren’t steadily taking risks, rising and failing, to be a positive witness to others around them doing the same.