I must also speak about the time a girl that already invited me to her dance tried to catfish me so I could fall in love with her. https://twitter.com/queer_angry/status/1263087716796899329

Okay shap. So I'm in grade 11 and there's this girls' school that has a tradition with my school where the grade 10 girls ask the grade 11 boys to a dance where we had to learn ballroom dances and the girls get dressed up and we meet their families. A big story for them.

Now prior to the dance there's like 5 weeks of linking with the girls from this school. The first link was to do some "speed dating" so the girls could see who they were trying to take. I already knew a few of the girls so I'm think "Bokang is gonna end up with a sweet one"

But I had also messed up with a girl that I had been chatting to from that school so I know she's not gonna be the one to take me. I'm okay with that because there are other girls that are clean from those ends. Now the speed dating starts and we've got a few seconds to chop.

I'm thinking I can push nicely here but everytime I introduce myself to a hun that is quarter to my type. I hear "oh you're Bk, I've heard of you"

So now Baby Bok is in the mud via the sweet ones thinking he's a dog.
Now I know I'm not going with a dollie that I cav.

After this first thing I'm in the bus going to sgela and I'm hurting yoh. Imagine me and all my anxiety going to a dance with a complete stranger? I'm sitting in the back of the bus with the homies on a Friday night. Everyone is under chops. I'm listening to Elhae.

After the second link where we had started learning the dances with the young ladies we leave. I wasn't having a bad time because I was practicing these dances with people I knew.

Now in the bus back to school I get a message from a number I don't know saying that I dance well (she's capping because I can't Dance at all) and that she'd like me to be her partner to the dance. I laugh because she has just lied to me but I say yes because that the law.

Now I have no idea who she is but she says we must practise together at the next link so I say okay. I get to this sgela and now I see this girl. And she's not my type. But I say "this dance isn't about me so who am I to be an asshole" now we practise and were chatting a bit.

She asked if I had a hun and I'm definitely saying yes because I'm not trying to entertain her like that. Do these other dollies not come and start asking me who my hun is? Yoh I felt like my demise was imminent.

I'm lying through my teeth now because there's pressure but I maintained my capping and we kept it pushing.

Now after a few more links. The week of this dance. This dollie starts asking me hectic questions and I'm telling her to breathe because I'm occupied. Then she says "I was just asking because one of the exchange students is feeling you " and me being a coon, I ask "which one"

Then she tells me the name and I think it's cap. Because we've all seen the exchange student from the school with that name and she definitely wasn't feeling me. She was for one of my boys. So I ask for this girls number and we start chopping a bit.

Now Kagiso and I are heading up research and asking around about another exchange student by this name and everyone is saying that this girl is capping. Now I'm embarassed a bit because I threw bones at said "exchange student"

So now I go back to the hun who I'm stuck going to the dance with and I ask her what's happening there by her friend that's feeling me. And she tunes. "Nah She hasn't Been replying because she's at choir practise" Mara it's 11 p.m midweek.

And you're also an exchange student. Wtf are you doing in the choir bro? Now "choir practice" is done but I'm bored of this situation now because it's already not making sense so I delete the contact. Now I get a message from an unsaved number telling me sorry I was at choir.

Keep in mind, this is allegedly a white hun that I'm talking to. So I say it's cool. But Kage is gathering info because we're both skeptical about this being real and his sources confirmed that this said exchange student didn't even cav me at all.

Now Kage starts spitting knowledge at me and says click on her whatsapp profile. Now because the number isn't saved when you click on the profile it just shows you the number and this "~ " followed by a name.

IS IT NOT ONE OF THE DEEPEST ZULU NAMES I HAVE EVER SEEN.

Kage starts DYING because this is the second time this year I've been in a similar situation. You know that laugh where someone can't even speak over you. And he's here in my face hitting me with that laugh. Ahh I could've broken my phone.

So I take a screenshot of the profile and send it to the girl who I'm going to the dance with and ask whats going on? Then she mizes for a few minutes and comes back with some whack apology and tries to tell me that she thought I would fall for the exchange student.

Then after I fell in love with the exchange student she'd tell me that it's actually her. Now I'm big mad because her I was thinking I'm gonna dabble in foreign box kanti kanti it's Thembelihle from Zululand. Oh I'm so mad. I just ask Why? And she starts apologizing.

I've been respectful to this girl the whole time. Why would she nyats me like this. Why would you ask one of your homegirls to help you finish me? And what's worse is the homegirl that I was actually talking to wasn't even at that same school as her. I still havent met the friend

Now if you know me you know how peaceful I am but @setembrosvryown was laughing at me too hard. Now @KB_Zulu comes to my room and he's also dying and I'm bleeding internally now because these gents both vaai to the dance with sweet ones. But here I am being catfished by a Kwang.

So in my heart I'm hating everyone around me but I try maintain respect for this girl because the dance isn't about me. And the dance is literally 3 days away now so even if I can justify what she did to me when I tell my teachers. It's not how I should be handling things.

Now I ask "why" once more and this is what I get :

In my heart of hearts. I'm done being nice to this doll now. And I think my response was justified. I really thought I shifted the culture with this bar too.

Okay now from this point she's being weird also. Like I'm not in a position where I even see you as a person anymore but she still keeps telling me she feels me so...

Now I'm big mad because these oaks have been dying at me for maybe twenty minutes and they're not even letting me leave my room. So I tell this girl to stop talking to me on whatsapp because I'm not her friend. That I'm just going to the dance because I'd hate to embarass her

I also said that I'm not trying to be in any of her photos because of how she's disrespected me and that she's lucky my housemates won't let me pull out of this commitment that we've made to her school.

Now my boys tell their dates about what juat happened to they the girls at her school start having her a bit in their DH. Shoutout to @katekile_ @SandeStephen
My dawgs

Now we're at this dance. Everyone finds their partners and they're standing with them. Except me because I hate this hun. Now the older homegirls that I know from this same school see me and I go chop to them instead of lining up with my partner. And they ask me what's up.

I'm standing with @ntombifuthi_ss and Keamo now and they also dying a bit because I told them what happened and they also didnt expect me to be with a toast hun at this thing. Now I'm in hell because my PR in the midlands has been guttered.

Now remember I said I'm not going to be in this huns photos? THE PHOTOGRAPHER IS AT THE ENTRANCE OF THE HALL OAKS. I wanted to throw up. I'm actually in my poes because of this. The one way I can punish her for this shit has completely flopped.

So at the entrance. You greet their headmaster and his wife. Then you take a photo with you date. THEN HER FAMILY COMES TO TAKE A PHOTO WITH YOU. Oh my days oaks. I couldn't salvage an ounce of satisfaction. So now I tell her not to touch me for the photos

I'm being petty now because it's all I have left but this photographer says we must link arms. I say "no thanks" but they both laugh and now she slips her hand under my arm. I was so hurt oaks. I'm sure you can see it.

From there we move to the side and her parents greet me. I So I say hello and now we must say group snap? PAIN.

Now we sit down at a table. There are about 4 couples per table with the girls parents sitting with us as well. Table is set up so we the gents are next to the girls parent's say she must swap seats with me so She can chop to her parents because I don't want.

Now I'm chopping to one of my boys who is At my table and he tells me I'm not being grand but he would've done the same thing. Now I leave the table and go dap @setembrosvryown and @KB_Zulu and their dates and these oaks laugh at me some more so I bounce.

Now. We have to do these dances in front of all the parents. Mind you, the instructor spoke to me the week before and asked if I'd be willing to do a "spotlight dance with this hun" at the dance and I said no because I'm an anxious oak. This was before the catfish.

Now I'm dancing with this hun but we aren't chopping at all. I pushed silent treat for at least 3 of the 5 dances. Then I had a change of heart because I remembered that this day wasn't about me so the next time we danced I told her I forgive her but we aren't boys.

She apologized some more then we switched seats at the table when we went back to eat and I spoke to her parents. They were also wondering why I hadn't been politely for a while but I didn't want to tell them their daughter is a monster so I just said I was really shy.

They understood and we chopped grand. And this hun was happy. The night ended and I gassed back to the bus so I could go to school and trap with my niggas. Didn't even say bye to her. Then she messages me and says "thanks for the night". Haven't heard from her ever since.