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I’m going to go on a small rant, but it’s important.
You know that one saying, that “behind every great man is a great woman”?
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You know that one saying, that “behind every great man is a great woman”?
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I’m not going to turn down the opportunity to say that women pull A LOT of the weight in relationships and are incredible, because I do believe that tends to be the truth a significant amount of the time.
But recently I’ve been experiencing a lot of men making it out to sound like if a woman isn’t nagging them to do things that they could be doing, then they won’t do them. Instead of it being the man’s responsibility, the blame falls on the woman if they don’t get anything done.
Why in the world would that EVER be the case? I’m serious. When did it become okay for people to believe that things like being driven and having goals and having the motivation to achieve them are conditional upon the existence of a significant other forcing them to be like that
I have not once ever relied on a single person in my life to force me to be productive or creative. I can truly say that I have my own goals and I have my own drive to accomplish the things that I want to. I never told my exbf that I needed HIM to tell me to get things done.
But somehow I've always been at the receiving end of the question "Well, why aren't you nagging me more? Why aren't you going out of your way to motivate me? Why don't you push me?" And I think that's a completely unfair position to be put in.
Don't get me wrong, I think it's perfectly healthy in a relationship to want to feel like you are being pushed by your significant other. But if one more boy tells me that it's my RESPONSIBILITY to motivate them, I'm going to lose it.
And somehow it's just become perfectly okay for men to say that they "wouldn't get anything done" if women weren't nagging them all the time. WHAT? Why is that just a cool and normal thing to say? Ew. Take responsibility for yourself. Own up to your actions. So anyways.
Being in control of my own life is already hard, and I don't think it's cool that potentially whoever I end up with might expect me to take control of their life on top of mine. Power couples are called that because each person is powerful on their own, and even more so together.
