I don't understand why some people dislike the split model of attraction?

"Physical attraction = romantic attraction = sexual attraction" is a formula that doesn't make sense for me and I had to learn that the hard way
If it makes sense for you then fine, but for me attraction has so many components: aesthetic attraction, emotional intimacy, feelings of safety, platonic attraction, romantic attraction, sexual attraction, even admiration etc.
I need to break it down in my head always, or I can misinterpret how I feel about a relationship because platonic and aesthetic attraction are so intense for me that when I was younger I mistook it for romantic attraction!
I think I only learnt that most people don't think like this over the last couple of years lol. There were a few awkward conversations where I insisted things worked this way and everyone was like "No, sexy good. That's how things work".
I'm starting to realise that I am very good at breaking down how things work for me, but as a result I struggle with labels because labels almost never seem to fit what I experience because I have broken it down too much to be labelled 😅
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