I don& #39;t understand why some people dislike the split model of attraction?

"Physical attraction = romantic attraction = sexual attraction" is a formula that doesn& #39;t make sense for me and I had to learn that the hard way

If it makes sense for you then fine, but for me attraction has so many components: aesthetic attraction, emotional intimacy, feelings of safety, platonic attraction, romantic attraction, sexual attraction, even admiration etc.

I need to break it down in my head always, or I can misinterpret how I feel about a relationship because platonic and aesthetic attraction are so intense for me that when I was younger I mistook it for romantic attraction!

I think I only learnt that most people don& #39;t think like this over the last couple of years lol. There were a few awkward conversations where I insisted things worked this way and everyone was like "No, sexy good. That& #39;s how things work".

I& #39;m starting to realise that I am very good at breaking down how things work for me, but as a result I struggle with labels because labels almost never seem to fit what I experience because I have broken it down too much to be labelled https://abs.twimg.com/emoji/v2/... draggable="false" alt="😅" title="Smiling face with open mouth and cold sweat" aria-label="Emoji: Smiling face with open mouth and cold sweat">