@VickieLeff asks if there is something different about how #HAPC professionals experience professional grief than other medical professionals? We seem to be treated as such. Perhaps sheer numbers? #PedPC #ECHOPal

She also reminds us that one of the consequences of not being aware of our own “stuff” is counter-transferring, pushing your own desires onto their decision-making, rather than allowing them to follow their own course at end-of-life. #EOL #HAPC #Grief

She reminds us that #stage theory of grief is outdated, and post-modern theories like Dual-Process Model from Strobe and Schut which allows us to oscillate back and forth in our feelings over an unspecified amount of time. #Grief.

@VickieLeff also reminds us that we sometimes have to ask families “what is quality of life to you?” and be willing to accept that the answer may be different than what we may say. #Acceptance #SelfDetermination #Grief

One participant in Leff’s #ECHO_Pal call reminds us all that having our own therapist to talk to is a helpful coping tool for an #HAPC professional. Speaking as a member of that community with #MDD and an extensive loss history, I heartily agree and have had one for decades.

Leff shares that she feels it is the responsibility of #HAPC clinicians to be attentive to our own emotions because of how they can impact the work we do. In response a participant shared a quote “you are not responsible for your wound. You are responsible for your healing.”