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Ok - because im a teacher irl and child protection is a huge part of my life i just wanted to say something about the FlamingAxel situ. This morning i woke up to see @crossingliss& #39;s thread with all the screenshots of FlamingAxel& #39;s manipulative behaviour towards minors. (1/?)
FlamingAxel, or shall we just call him by his name, Ray, reached out to me when I had only had my account for maybe a day? 2 days? and invited me and a couple more girls to his island for a tour. He was suuuper generous and gave us loads of gifts.. (2/?)
Which is outwardly a very nice thing to do. It made me feel slightly weird - maybe its my upbringing (?) but it made me feel indebted to him in some way. He came over my island the next day because he wanted to give me *more* gifts. Which i told him wasn& #39;t necessary. (3/?)
While he was there he me abt films etc, i mentioned i had recently watched Thor with my bf and he pretty much left the island after that. Soon he had made a tweet about how he wished people would stop rubbing it in his face that they had boyfriends. (4/?)
I wish i had a screenshot of the tweet now. He left the group chat he was in with me and some other girls and seemed to move on to the next group. You just had to scroll down his timeline to see he was always tagging the same girls in stuff constantly. (5/?)
I feel like even online you sense a person& #39;s vibe. And because he was being so outwardly nice and showering us with gifts it made me want to give him the benefit of the doubt and ignore the problematic behaviour. "Maybe *I& #39;m* reading the situation wrong?" (6/?)
Seeing the screenshots this morning gives a full picture. He would guilt girls into talking to him. Paint this picture of him as the nice guy who gets walked all over. Any1 who didn& #39;t want to keep up a convo was suddenly shallow and all they cared abt was their follow count (7/?)
Being constantly people pleasing, having a sob story up his sleeve, marketing himself as the & #39;nice guy& #39; who has been taken advantage of by so many & #39;nasty girls& #39; - we& #39;ve all seen this before. How many self proclaimed & #39;nice guys& #39; are *actually* nice guys? (8/?)
I guess the takeaway is - always trust your gut instinct, challenge behaviour that makes you uncomfortable if it is safe to do so. Seek help and advice from people you trust. My dm& #39;s are always open to anyone. (9/?)
I& #39;d also like to add - I was only able to process and understand what had gone on AFTER seeing other people& #39;s accounts and being able to add it all up together to see the big picture. Sharing your experience HELPS people, so if you& #39;re brave enough please do. (10/?)
Last one - please !!! tell me !!! if im following anyone else like this. I may have missed it, I pretty much follow ANYONE back (as long as theyre an AC acc lol) and so i may have missed it. Sorry to go on like this. Stay safe online people, protecc the babies. (11/11)
Ok lol I KNOW i said last one but i want to add something. I want to say that i dont believe Ray is a rotten to the core. I genuinely dont think he thought he was doing anything wrong. I think his own loneliness was presenting itself in ugly ways. (12/?)
I want to say i do NOT stan cancel culture and that the way we as a community have reacted is probably NOT going to help him heal/prevent this from happening again. These people are dealing with their own struggles and deserve the chance to right their wrongs. (13/?)
I guess it comes down to me feeling conflicted abt his motive. I dont *think* he was *trying* to manipulate people, its probably all he knows. Nevertheless his actions are not condoned and this is why people have reacted in this way. (14/?)
