The amount of cutesy, aesthetic selfies and posts from MINORS calling their ears and tails #petplay as if it’s a fashion and a nonsexual one at that is so fucking sickening I am ENGRAGED. It’s a KINK, always NSFW, and FOR ADULTS.

FURTHERMORE, how is it supposed to be BDSM (for those who claim it is real petplay) if there isn’t ANY dynamic power exchanges? That’s the entire point! That’s a fundamental aspect. Getting called “Kitten” and “Honey” while dressed up isn’t BDSM. That’s costuming.

So you want to be a cute subby kitten and do kittenplay? You GIVE UP part of your power to someone you trust and submit to them. You answer in some way to them while maintaining the identity of a kitten (here, a human with feline traits, not in any form the mental image of a cat)

In no way are you no longer equal as humans. In the relationship, you are still equally respected. You both have say. You both have control. Your identity as a pet and as a sub in general comes from the agreement FROM THE SUB to not “have” certain categories of power.

The sub has all of the control. At all given moments, the dom only has the higher power because the sub says they can. It’s a loaning of power, not the taking of it. As a pet, this could be through training, no sitting on the furniture, eating on the floor, playing, being in gear

If my Master commanded me to get off a place of furniture, I would be happy. In this persona and identity at the time, I thrive in knowing I am to listen to him. This is a controlled sense of rules and limits. If I don’t move? Squirt me in the face with a water bottle. Strike me.

You as a sub decide your own forms of punishment. Your dom will be fluid as well. These things change. These are all deeply discussed and agreed on terms that must be addressed each and every scene. And scenes are not 24/7 BUT some ARE 24/7 in their identity.

This is so unique to you and your partner(s) that it is hard to give a concrete definition. This demonstrates the complexity of the culture. In fact, scenes can be done without one bit of clothing or gear at all! Your ears and tails do not make you a pet. Your submission does.

So, after a scene, I specifically may he struck, bruised, punished, play with bells, chew on cat toys, chase a feather, bite my Master, and take water breaks from a running faucet with bound limbs - then afterwards we go through aftercare (cuddling, massages, etc) and it ends.

In daily life I am rather domineering to my partner. My life dictates schedules. I pick where to eat. I organize and plan our events. You could even call me a bitchy nag. My career will take superiority over location. We have discussed these things. But I’m still a sub kitten.

So, no... you aren’t a kitten just because you like to dress up and say “nya~” on TikTok and do silly dances. You could be a pet and also do those things by all means, but that’s not what petplay is. This watered down aesthetic is pulling too many minors into the culture.