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Today, my youngest sister who's 17 called me out on not having many friends. I responded by saying 'you know what I wouldn't want it any other way' to which she responded with by scoffing. I hate to admit but when I was her age I glamorised the idea of having
a large number of friends. Most of the popular girls were in large groups and they all seemed happy. Growing up I lost alot of friends, friends that didn't value me or maybe I felt they weren't contributing to my happiness. When I started to lose them I would
blame myself for not being able to sustain friendships. For being 'the problem'. But as I grew older, I realised that being in big friendship groups caused way too many problems such as failure to have your voice heard, favouritism etc I could really go on.
Now I must make it clear that not everyone will have the same experience as me. But I learnt it the hard way that as you grow up you will distant from people you once called friends and you'll learn to make new ones. There was a point in my life where I had
no one but honestly it gave me the time to realise my self-worth. My sister will learn in due time that quantity doesn't necessarily mean quality. I wasn't happy being in a big group neither was I happy being alone but alhamdulillah I had sabr and I put
myself first. Now I have many beautiful individuals in my life and there are many mutuals I've met who have given me more happiness than people I've met in real life. It may be like that sometimes. Just a reminder to those who may feel alone reading this.
You're not alone. And not having many friends does not say anything about you as a person nor does it make you feel inferior or superior than anyone else. We need to stop comparing ourselves to others and adhering to social expectations. You do you boo
Instead of seeking the validation of others and filling up your space with numbers, seek happiness within yourself first, slowly then everything else will fall into place
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