The mainstream media is more interested in giving an audience to people whose marriage failed. They want them to share their experiences/lessons.

But you see those who are in a long, healthy marriage? The media don't exactly prioritize their experiences/lessons. Makes you wonder

Toke Makinwa and co have built a celebrity status around their failed marriage, published best-selling books about it and are the biggest evangelists of the "strong and independent" opium.

@therealdaddymo1 once used airplane crash as an analogy for marriage and it is profound.

The summary is that an airplane crash is like a goldmine for the media: it generates cliques/views, sells out.

But how often do airplanes crash? If a media outfit runs a story on airlines that have never experienced a crash, will it do as well as an airplane crash story? No

And I think some people have realized how easy it is to sell their failures in marriages masked in a victimhood garb.

And that is why they spend soooo much time rubbishing marriage, talking about how they're better outside marriage, valorizing their "lone wolf" lifestyle.

The only concern I have is for unsuspecting teenagers who are digesting all the fancy, sensational ideas they find in the media.

Imbibing views that is antithetical to the realities of adults in the real world will only lead to frustration and the "mental health" issue it breeds

And mental health issue is something that's been on a rise in a word that is on a rollercoaster ride the liberal ideals.

People need companionship; long term, healthy, carefully cultivated, reliable companionship. And it requires hardwork on YOURSELF.

It takes a whole lot to accommodate someone of a different upbringing and experience into your life. Requires lots of adjustments and hardwork.

People need to learn to work on themselves for the long-term benefits of being with someone they've built a common ground with.

Of course it is much easier to take the easy path where you down your loneliness and emptiness with liquor, career, drugs, random sex and partying.

But when you take out all these "sedative", the reality comes to stare right into your face: It is cold, it is lonely.

Relationships (especially marriage) requires working on yourself more than finding someone who will just FITS.

And when two people take out time to work on themselves and find an even ground, it is total bliss going forward. As smooth as silk

Works better than listening to Toke