I think it’s important to remember that the people sitting down to negotiate BDSM together may already have a power imbalance between them. Different levels of experience is one way this can show up, but it’s not the only one. 1/

Be cognisant of the influence and authority you hold (whether that’s conscious or not) and how that may influence your negotiations. Be aware of how susceptible you may be to this. Feel free to have a trusted and/or neutral third party oversee your negotiations 2/

I’m not saying you can only do BDSM with folks of similar power and privilege, just that I think it’s something to be mindful of. Our wider society is steeped in hierarchies both seen and unseen and I believe the more mindful and informed we are, the better our play can be 3/3