sometimes a person who's marginalized will say something ableist, and I want to point it out but they're in the middle of getting dogpiled about their marginalization

and if I say something, it will just distract from the primary issue / be weaponized by bigots

so basically sometimes I just... don't get into a particular aspect of ableism, because it feels like I'm... derailing an important conversation and recentering it on my issues

and I know that "I wasn't talking about disability" is a thing ableist people often say

disabled people end up not having access because designers forget we exist, etc

it's not great

but there's also that thing when you have privilege (even if you're marginalized in other areas) where it's really important not to jump in and go "not all [people that you're complaining about]"

and it's...yikes

all this is to say that in conversations around COVID and people who work cleaning houses, I know it can hurt to hear people complaining about privileged wankers who don't care about their cleaners

but if you're not a privileged wanker, maybe don't make it about you

If anyone has any recommendations of any threads by house cleaners dealing with reopenings or the Discourse (particularly any by WOC), please lmk so I can boost them