When I was a child, and even as an adult, I was told that I was "too soft" and needed to "toughen up". And I was, but I don't.

Being soft is seen as a vulnerability in western culture. Gentleness, fragile mental health, and shame are seen as weaknesses in our world.

The artist and poet Lora Mathis developed the concept of Radical Softness, which I have absolutely begun to embrace.

"The idea that unapologetically sharing your emotions is a political move and a way to combat the societal idea that feelings are a sign of weakness."

The message here is simple: There is nothing wrong with being soft. It's a beautiful way to be. Those who tell you to "stop being so soft" are uncomfortable with your power. Do not listen to them. Be your full self.

Don't be afraid to say how you feel, what you think, or what you believe. The next time some calls you a "softie" respond with a calm "and...?"

Be proud of your vulnerabilities, take ownership of them. They are what make you.

Being connected to your emotions, sorting through painful experiences, and managing your mental health are acts that take a lot of your energy. You aren’t weak for being emotional, or experiencing emotions in a way that is messy and difficult, you're human.

Taking ownership of your vulnerabilities also means taking responsibility for them. Using your vulnerability to manipulate, try to control, or coerce others will rightly have consequences for you.

Be proud of your emotional self. Your honesty, genuineness and congruence will empower you. When you have ownership of something, no one can take it from you, or take advantage of you.

All of the art in this thread is from Mathis' Tumblr, which you can find here: https://lora-mathis.tumblr.com/