Feel need to vent, anxiety/upset triggered by willful ignorance, #whitefragility & racist attitudes I keep coming across in #neurodivergent communities/& #39;support groups& #39; I hoped would want to try & understand my perspective. But instead, just accuse me of being & #39;aggressive& #39;...
Because I dared to challenge people on their bullying, defensive, patronising & gaslighting behaviour aka #covertracism & #misogynoir.

I am fed up & exhausted frm trying to explain why the personal is political & can& #39;t be separated...
& that pple don& #39;t understand that by basically calling me a & #39;black angry woman& #39; you& #39;re simply reinforcing racist stereotypes & trying to silence me. & that it& #39;s a white man& #39;s privilege to be apolitical in the 1st place...
Or that being & #39;bullied for having freckles& #39; ffs (yes an admin of one of the main ldn ADHD groups actually said this to me) is not the same as experiencing racism.

Patronisingly tellg me that people aren& #39;t going to & #39;like you if you keep trying to get them to agree with you& #39;...
...is also beside the point.

When a #POC tells you that admins/pple in your group have been bullying you & behaving totally inappropriately beyond their remit. Trying to tell you that you& #39;re the one with the problem when others have been racist.

Then you just LISTEN...
You don& #39;t argue with them and give your ignorant opinion on dreadlocks on white pple being totally fine. Or how it& #39;s the same as them cooking Italian food for Jamie Oliver to appropriate Jamaican cooking?!!

Or tell me that you can& #39;t do anything about the longstanding toxic....
And domineering/overbearing behaviour & racially ignorant behaviour of your admins because, well they& #39;ve been there for years & it would be a shame to waste all that training!!??

This is why we have groups for #POC who understand intersectionality because we are TIRED...
We are so fricking TIRED of having our identity & experiences being invalidated and dismissed & being told to basically & #39;shut up & stop being making things difficult for everyone& #39;.

TIRED of the thinking that just bc we share a condition, we don& #39;t have to acknowledge anythg else
We can pretend that we all share the exact same experiences bc hey we all have #ADHD etc etc

So please don& #39;t mention race, we were so much happier when we didn& #39;t have to think about our privilege or whiteness. Why spoil the fun?
If the majority-white support groups keep denying the experiences of #POC in their community, then please don& #39;t also expect them to help out with their & #39;admin& #39;.

I am done with these groups, end of. I don& #39;t care how many of them don& #39;t like me as a result...
Or how many of them think I & #39;take things too personally& #39;.

I am here to speak my truth, as cliched as that phrase is, & I will continue to do so bc I am not here to be liked.

If everyone cared abt that there& #39;d be no Audre Lorde& #39;s, Frida Khalo& #39;s, Franz Fanons or Nina Simone& #39;s...
Not comparing myself to them, but just saying...

I am however disappointed & frustrated that part of a community I have spent so much time trying to help, can dismiss & invalidate me & others so easily.

I can only hope that things get better. Rant over.
One more thing actually, bc this is a real bugbear...Trying to say you& #39;re & #39;objective& #39; or that your opinion matters more as you are not white (even if you have passing privilege) & only trying to see & #39;both sides of the argument& #39;, only continues to validate racist behaviour...
& doesn& #39;t take into account that POC are also subject to #internalisedracism. That in fact some of the more overtly racist comments I have received were from other POC& #39;s at school.

So pls educate yourselves & stop thinkg you truly understand what racism is until then...
...& stop alienating pple in the community bc you& #39;re afraid to rock the boat.

If you& #39;re not prepared to have uncomfortable conversations, to challenge pple & to lose friends then definitely don& #39;t tell me you care abt racism, that you & #39;get it& #39; or that you& #39;re anti-racist...
....Bc it& #39;s the polite, & #39;nice& #39; and & #39;well-meaning& #39; people who are the main part of the problem.

They enable pple to get away with bullying racist behaviour bc it& #39;s not them doing it after all! They sit back whilst the ones like us who do challenge end up having to leave...
Also part of the fab @LondonBiPandas who are def worth supporting...As usual too many to ment but @lilririah has created a v useful list of awesome #AutisticBIPOC& #39;s & articles on racism. So check out their pinned Tweets.

What I& #39;m saying is there really is 0 excuse to be ignorant
For starters this insightful article by @FaimaBakar illustrates very well how covert racism can manifest https://abs.twimg.com/emoji/v2/... draggable="false" alt="👉" title="Right pointing backhand index" aria-label="Emoji: Right pointing backhand index"> https://metro.co.uk/2020/02/28/way-define-racism-may-stop-seeing-definition-hold-12287889/?ito=newsnow-feed

Also">https://metro.co.uk/2020/02/2... Robin DiAngelo on how being & #39;nice& #39; is not being antiracisthttps://abs.twimg.com/emoji/v2/... draggable="false" alt="👉" title="Right pointing backhand index" aria-label="Emoji: Right pointing backhand index"> https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9Jin7ISV85s">https://www.youtube.com/watch...
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