If you are a member of an oppressed group and you don't ever cringe when you see another member of your oppressed group acting in a way that reinforces the oppressors' unflattering assumptions about you in full view of the oppressor? You're a better person than me!

The best I know to do is not take these feelings out on my fellow oppressed people or side with the oppressor against them, but I don't yet know how to not feel my feelings without also damaging my psyche and body!