non-marginalized people will never understand the drama of trying to decide if you're enough of your own identity to be portraying that identity accurately

(brought to you by me, a melungeon writing a book about a melungeon girl, worried that because i grew up in a city and don't live in the south anymore i've lost "melungeon rights")

(also me, a trans person writing a book with a trans protagonist, debating if i am trans enough)

(don't get me started on the jewish enough question, i don't discuss that with gentiles.)