These days I am becoming more emotional, sober and filled with gratitude .
Few days ago we just got back from spending 2 weeks with my in laws and the whole house was in a dusty mess. My husband was about to go to work, but he had to confirm that the cable subscription was still

on. When he checked, he discovered that it had expired and he decided to subscribe for us. When I saw that he was about to subscribe, I told him that I needed a higher plan that I wanted to watch a particular program that's why. I later changed my mind and said I would manage the

regular plan. Few minutes later, I discovered that he actually got a higher plan just because of my program and I told him 'thank you'. The next thing that came out of his mouth sent chills down my spine. He said; 'anything to make you happy my dear'. I knew I could subscribe

for the plan myself if I wanted to, he didn't really need to do anything but the fact that he was doing all these to make me happy actually made me very happy. He is not my comforter, it is not his job to make me happy, but he selflessly wanted to and I had to appreciate him for

it. Most times we ignore little things our loved ones do for us and normalise the act of receiving so much that we tend to take it for granted and unconsciously make it their responsibilities. These are the things that remove the spice from our relationships, these are the

reasons relationships of 10 years might no longer have those young vibes because our partners tend to get tired of going unappreciated and some just start doing things for duty sake, no excitement whatsoever! Gratitude gives us the strength to go the extra miles for our loved

ones, appreciating little gestures makes us unconsciously enjoy doing more of those little things. Sometimes I might be grumbling about a particular thing at home, maybe like complaining inside that I have to go serve meals after taking care of the home since morning and the

HolySpirit would just remind me; 'but this man might not be working this hard if he was alone', or 'remember that he prepared breakfast the other day you were sleeping and he never complained', or 'he might even be having a bad day and that selfless service can lift up his mood'

Secondly; money is life! Some people earn just 200 or 90 naira per hour and releasing 10,000 to give to you might have taken them several hours or even days of hard labour and because it looks like they earn over 200k a month, you look down on that 10k and tell yourself that

they would have given you more. This takes away the willingness to give and replaces it with a sense of duty and this would gradually kill the passion and fill your home with stress, anger and frustration and then you blame it on routine or years of living together. Have you

stopped to ask yourself why your mother or father didn't get tired of showing you love or how you manage to live with your siblings and still enjoy each other's company for the longest time? Do you think it is because of blood? No it isn't, it is because of our mindset. We have

conditioned our minds to stay and love them no matter what because they are our siblings. We can still condition our minds to love and appreciate our spouses if we really want to keep the spice in our relationships going because it gives them the strength to continue doing more!

Have you wondered why you guys were so in love for the past 10 years but immediately you got married, just 2years and you guys are already tired? This is because you have started seeing those selfless acts you do for yourselves as your responsibilities! Change your mindsets!