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Thinking about this quote from Home x Toni Morrison a lot lately.
"I can be miserable if I want to. You don't need to try and make it go away. It shouldn't go away. It's just as sad as it ought to be and I'm not going to hide from what's true just because it hurts"
"I can be miserable if I want to. You don't need to try and make it go away. It shouldn't go away. It's just as sad as it ought to be and I'm not going to hide from what's true just because it hurts"
I talk occasionally about how much I dislike forced positivity and "good vibes only" mindsets + my personal feelings about cheering people up
(I don't do it because sadness, anger, frustration etc are valid emotions that don't go away just because someone told you to cheer up)
(I don't do it because sadness, anger, frustration etc are valid emotions that don't go away just because someone told you to cheer up)
And a lot of times I avoid telling people things because wo much of this positive vibes only shit exhausts me. It sound like avoidance. It sounds like you don't know how to deal with someone feeling anything other than happiness (even if the happiness isn't even real).
So you'd rather me fake being happy because sadness makes you uncomfortable. That isn't emotional support
I don't want to "look on the bright side" sometimes. I don't want to "think of the positive!" sometimes and I damn sure don't want to hear about how other people have it worse so I should be happy.
Sometimes I want to be fucking sad until I'm not sad anymore let me do that.
Sometimes I want to be fucking sad until I'm not sad anymore let me do that.
Empty, meaningless platitudes do nothing for me. Save it. If I wanted to see a bunch of empty positivity slogans I'd go on pinterest I really don't need it in person. I'd rather you not talk to me at all.
For me, the only way out is through. I have to acknowledge it, honor it, feel it. That's the only way through for me. When I'm good and damn well ready to do so.
