Trans people are not a monolith. We all have our own opinions and feelings and concerns and beefs.

Two people I respect immensely got into it. One cis, one trans. They both have valid perspectives. Neither deserves hurt.

Both have done great things. One even helped me out...

...immensely in my surgery planning.

I've read the works of both.

I don't believe neither is in the wrong here. I'm not being 'centrist', before someone misappropriates that word, I'm acknowledging, whileonly being able to read what I could after one suspended their account...

..I also acknowledge I need to rely on the abstract summarizations, that when issues of great personal importance that impact one's most intimate lives are being criticized, passions get heated, emotions too, words get flung.

But I'll say this....

... And I won't say their names. If you wanna know who, it's easy to find. But I am not gonna fuel this.

I truly believe the one originally challenged has been a great ally. Their family a great example. Their work impacting many. Their motives true and honest. (I ain't done)

I think they've taken a lot of shit they didn't have to as someone of cis privilege. And they and their family were not obligated to be this public, be the target they didn't have to be by the same assholes who target us. But they chose to. (still ain't done)

And I've zero doubt they even inspired many and proved to many cis folks in a high profile way a family can go through this, twice even, and get through it.

They have my respect. And I believe them to be a great ally.

(still ain't done)

I also believe the other part of this drama is a great and fantastic voice. With a very different perspective. Their writing inspired me a few times. They never had cis privilege. And knows firsthand how hard it is to get work/get published due to that. She's not as...

...much a Ellen Show gift wrapped anecdote. Her stories powerful, but in a lived experience, emotional way without the more sensational entrance into the zeitgeist to get her all the speaking tour invites(again, I'm not holding that against person 1 in any way)...

Less suburban. More...real. (not saying person 1 _isn't_ real, but just more familiar to the experiences of, let's face it, most of us).

Both are humans who've loved vastly different lives. I respect both greatly. I will continue to.

And person 2 had valid concerns. Must we always get the success leftovers from cis folk? Is a very successful cis person advocating in what I truly believe is good faith an obstacle to get trans folks in that same position?

And person 2 I'm sure wrestles with that worry every day too. Worried that their family members who don't have that privilege will be thinking about that in the future as well. Struggling with that when their child is older and they may be gone. And that's a huge nerve to poke.

But I'm seeing more people drawing defensive battle lines already. I'm seeing people take on the "with them or against them" mentality disregarding that it's OKAY to disagree with things and still respect the other person.

That everyone has bad days, bad takes, good takes that may be too raw for others, etc....

So I ask that y'all put the swords down. "Trans Twitter" isn't a monolith either.

Do what y'all want, but I'd rather not see my TL tear down either someone I think has made...

...great contributions to advocacy and someone who's done great works that inspired me and helped me personally on my own journey.

I don't wanna have to start muting stuff.

Be kind. Don't turn this into a reality show. Let people criticize. Let people disagree.

Don't contribute more negativity in a community that really doesn't need more of it from sources inside the house.

Cheers. I've said my peace.