So let's start with like definitions

A polyamorous person is someone who can have romantic connections with more than one partner at a time. They're committed to all their partners, and each one of them is just as important. https://twitter.com/hecallsmemilan/status/1260330678090182656

A monogamous person however is someone who does one person at a time. They are unable to form those kind of romantic connections with more than one person.

If they are dating A and then fall for B, then A is out the window.

Polyamorous people aren't cheats. They also aren't indecisive or selfish because everyone involved is aware and consenting.

Now, you'd think the monos stuck to one another and the polys dated each other, but it's not always like that.

Fun fact: People that engage in open relationships aren't always poly. For poly people, it's not just the sex. It's the deeper connection & experiences different people have to offer.

So what happens when two worlds collide?

Someone usually needs to give up something for the other.

Mono people give up exclusivity. Your partner isn't usually just your partner alone. They'd like other people and fall in love with other people, it's a thing that happens.

Most poly people know how to balance relationships so that the other won't feel left out, but sometimes these things slip.

Mono people usually project their manner of love unto their poly partners. They think that if you love someone else, you'd love them less or not at all.

Now, if you as a poly person are the one to compromise, brace yourself because you will be STRESSED.

The thing about Poly relationships is that trust and communication are very important.

A lot of mono people tend to not be used to telling their partner everything.

I'd tell my partners when I find someone else attractive, or when I think I have a crush on someone. Why? Because I believe it's a normal human reaction to love other people.

Mono people don't usually take it that way. So sometimes you'd feel trapped.

Like you can't share a part of yourself with your partner because they'd lose their shit.

I'd also find yourself getting jealous. Why? Because I know they're mono. I know that once they find someone else, I'm out the door. They don't have the space for both of you.

When you're with another poly person, you know the dynamics. It's a ship you understand. It's something you're used to, but with mono people, you're being thrown into the deep end without a life jacket.

Now, both of you could try an open relationship, because with open relationships there's a certain level of communication they'd have to achieve which can maybe make them understand polyamory more, but never make your partner do what they aren't comfortable with

Consent is necessary, no matter the kind of relationship you find yourself in. So if your partner don't like it, don't do it

A lot of people think that Poly people don't know how to love their partners properly, but that's a lie. Love means different things to different people

For me personally, love means experiencing someone in one of the purest ways possible.

I don't think they have an ownership of anyone.

I'm only allowed the experience and connection the person allows me to have. If it's beautiful, why won't I want other people to have that?

So there is some sort of accountability in each and every relationship. Poly ones aren't different.

If you breach one of the rules or regulations one of your partners had, then there's a problem.

You've offended them, broken their trust.

Fun fact: not all of your partners are friends. Some people genuinely don't want to know who the other people you're with are. Some are friends. Some even date (yeah, shit like this happens)

It all depends on how large the poly net (as I like to call it) is.

Partner A and Partner B can date either including you or excluding you.

Depends on the kind of dynamic you all have.

All in all, you have to figure out what works best for you and all the people involved. If you get it right, everyone's happy!

Now people ask, how do you juggle it all?

I'm a fast texter.

I try to spend time equally with all my partners.

If I'm with you, I'm only with you.

I communicate effectively with everyone involved.

I'd ease your worries as many times as you need me to

We don't all love the same way.

Respect people that love differently, and please try to engage in relationships with people that understand the way you love.

If a poly person and a mono person there will be problems.

Things will occur, but it can also be beautiful

The important things are love, understanding, honesty, communication, comprehension and trust.

Any questions?