I& #39;ve been wrestling with how upset I should be since learning my dad has bought plane tickets for himself (late 60s), my mom (early 70s), & my brother (early 30s) to fly from CO to FL to visit my grandmother in a retirement home for her 91st birthday in 2 weeks.

My dad has gone full Trump over the last few years, so this isn& #39;t entirely unexpected. I tried to get my mom to oppose him, but she won& #39;t. Haven& #39;t tried with my brother yet. I think my brain is sort of refusing to process this as real.

I literally said to my mom yesterday:

"I don& #39;t want to plan your socially-distanced funeral!"

That seemed to bother her, but it wasn& #39;t enough. I& #39;m drawing a blank on what to do next.

If they want to endanger themselves, I get that they can. I just don& #39;t want them to endanger the countless hospitality and travel workers they& #39;ll encounter, or the folks in the nursing home, or my aunt and uncle they& #39;ll stay with on the trip (who have high-risk health concerns).