I’ve been thinking about the whole ‘positive Femdom’ thing, along with ‘wholesome Findom/Femdom’

And whilst I can accept that IWC may have got the wording wrong, I’m still left thinking about those who sit in the ‘wholesome’ camp and I just wana say this,

Femdom IS wholesome.

Those who do not understand the psychology behind it, will disagree.

BDSM can offer an escape.
It is an outlet.
It can be therapeutic.
It is a safe space to explore.

Early on in my career, I had a client who wanted, no mercy humiliation & degradation.
The problem was, because I was new & had taken a liking to him, I began wanting to ‘rescue’ him.
I wanted him to see he was not a loser. This guy had been in the scene over two decades -

& picked up on this fairly quickly.

To cut a long story short,
He messaged me to say something along the lines of,

‘Jas, you’re starting to sound like my daughter. I know you care but I’m not looking for another daughter’.

It was at this point everything fell into place.

It is very easy to romance BDSM.
To feel as though people need saving.

They do not.

They enjoy interacting with Dominatrices because they understand what the rest of the world cannot comprehend.

As soon as this clicks, the rest flows like a D/s love story.

It’s my thought, that the psychology behind D/s is simple but it is over complicated when we try to bring in our ‘vanilla’ conditions & make them fit.

If a sub is struggling with the activities he seemingly enjoyed, perhaps it’s not Domination he needs, perhaps it is therapy.

D/s, when done properly is a positive, therapeutic experience on both parts.

The majority of healthy subs, do not need saving, they just need to be seen, heard and accepted.

To clarify, I practice sensual & soft Domination, it has a place here.

This thread is referring to the ‘saviours’.

Those who want to ‘rescue’ the poor tooth brush fucking subby, because, ‘he doesn’t really want that’.