When you fall in love with a provider and stop wanting to pay her, what you’re telling her is “you’re so good at your job I want you to do it for me for free.” This is and always will be our jobs. Don’t devalue our work by pretending to be hurt when we ask you to pay us.

Also, when you couch payment in terms of “helping us out” or “spending money,” you delegitimize our work. We work hard to get paid fairly, don’t act like our labor was free and you wanted to treat us. https://abs.twimg.com/emoji/v2/... draggable="false" alt="🙏🏼" title="Folded hands (medium light skin tone)" aria-label="Emoji: Folded hands (medium light skin tone)">

Also also: GIFTS ARENT PAYMENT

The response to this thread is overwhelming and think really speaks to the pervasiveness of this problem. The only dissenters in this thread are guys.... please take note guys... we shouldn’t have to renegotiate the same boundaries and fees over and over again https://abs.twimg.com/emoji/v2/... draggable="false" alt="🙏🏼" title="Folded hands (medium light skin tone)" aria-label="Emoji: Folded hands (medium light skin tone)">

Loving all the women working hard at their hustle who agree with this statement, and all the men who think that us doing our work well is somehow a bad thing https://abs.twimg.com/emoji/v2/... draggable="false" alt="🙃" title="Upside-down face" aria-label="Emoji: Upside-down face">https://abs.twimg.com/emoji/v2/... draggable="false" alt="🙃" title="Upside-down face" aria-label="Emoji: Upside-down face">