ISSUES IN A CONFLICT

A mere difference of opinion is seldom regarded as a problem just a subject of conversation.

In simpler terms, issues are acknowledged as matters of concern
~ Different people hold different positions that may differ with the other in an issue.
This is where Conflicts begin.

There are 3 kinds of issues in conflicts;
1. Substantive Issues ~ Face value issues, the problem to be solved or question to be decided. A conflict can begin cos you stepped on someone's J's

2. Emotional Issues ~ a tense/ angry encounter. If the individual feels that a need is not being satisfied then his/ her issue is not addressed.
By needs not being fulfilled the tension in emotional issues supply the energy that fuels the flames and a conflict arises.

Categorically emotional issues are:
> Issues of power ~ control/ influence/ social status
> Issues of Inclusion ~ acceptance into social groups
> Issues of Approval ~ affection/ to be liked

>Issues of Justice ~ fair, equal & equitable treatment
> Issues of Identity ~ autonomy/ self esteem/ +ve self image/ self determination/ affirmation of persona values.

3.Pseudo Substantive Issues ~additional issues from the past brought up during a conflict which are emotional bust masked as substantive.

As human beings we are quite passive aggressive in many cases due to language. Hence most issues in a conflict are pseudo substantive. https://twitter.com/collar_bones2/status/1254672970729095168?s=20

Pseudo Substantive issues serve to satisfy individual needs related to emotional issues.
To solve a conflict you have to self reflect and find your faults in the conflict.
Self deception is inherent in human beings, not premeditated or consciously intended.

Conflict resolution (Crashes/ Crisis level) requires discharge or angry energy accumulated from prior frustration. Blip levels just need better communication (Will explain levels in the next thread).

Conflict Resolution is achieved by bringing emotional issues out of the protective darkness of silence and cover up for substantive issues brought about.

DM's always open for help in conflict resolution

Source:
Managing Differences ~ Daniel Dana, Ph.D.