ok someone's being anti-bottom lwj again so let me breakdown why 'lwj has top vibes so he Must be a top Only' is a dangerous thought:

it restricts mlm (+ wlw too) relationships to heteronormative standards. and that's bad.

what does society think a top must be? strong, powerful, dominant, and typically Very masculine in their mannerisms

what does society think about bottoms? effeminate, flamboyant, submissive, and pretty dainty as a person

but honestly? talk to ANY mlm/wlw person and they'd tell you: each queer/LGBT+ person have their own individualities.

what makes their preferences in bed are their life experiences, personality, and LITERAL PREFERENCE!

additionally, not attributing bottom to a v masc person buys into the patriarchal thought that strong men should not lose control or be vulnerable. bc that's what bottoming actually is.

it's letting go control and be vulnerable to your partner!

i would also like to point out that bottom/top =/= sub/dom. BDSM is a whole different monster than generic, vanilla sex, but i digress

I WASN'T DONE WITH THIS THREAD MY LAPTOP DIED MID-TYPE

but moving on to the next point: the only reason wwx is the bottom in wangxian is bc we interpret mxy's body to be dainty and weak. which is false for many reasons i will state!