My therapist once told me: what if your mom never changes and goes to her death bed with absolutely no guilt about all the damage she caused? Your healing can’t depend on someone else deciding they also want to heal.

And it’s been the hardest lesson ever tbfh.

Idk sometimes some of us want our parents to heal so that we can heal but that just ain’t gonna happen for a lot of us. So now we gotta function without ever getting these overdue apologies- what then?

And it’s a lot of ~inner strength~ bullshit that’s exhausting af. Like damn I really gotta extend my capacity for handling trauma even more like fuuuuuck. tired.