One thing I’ve learned from writing this book is that people are uncomfortable with the notion that women & girls never have to take responsibility for men abusing, harassing, raping and killing them.

People like the ‘no victim blaming’ message until they realise what it means.

For clarity - ending all victim blaming of women and girls means forcing men to take responsibility for male violence and telling rapists, abusers, stalkers and murderers that we don’t give a fuck about their excuses and that they are 100% to blame for their own actions

That then means that women cannot be blamed for their dress, their character, their childhoods, their ethnicity, their age, their culture, their employment, their personality, their choices etc

Because the man still chose to rape her. He made an adult, conscious decision.

Further, this means putting an end to all ‘preventative’ campaigns which tell women and girls to live smaller and smaller lives within a set of shitty rules to protect themselves from men raping and abusing them

If you’re not down for all of this, you are not yet at a place where you have stopped blaming women and girls for male violence