mother's day is filled with sentiments about perfect, wonderful, amazing moms. but here's a shout out to the flawed mothers, the fallible mothers, the mothers who sometimes feel like they weren't cut out for this, the mothers who question their own abilities

mothering is hard and complicated and filled with doubts and strife. there is joy and happiness in it, of course, but for so many people it's a daily struggle to try and maintain that joy

to all the mothers out there feeling like you aren't doing it right, or doing it well, just know that you are not alone. we're out here. we are many, and we make it work. motherhood is not perfection and it's ok to accept that. your kids will survive, and so will you

my kids are adults now and we have talked about their childhoods and my parenting and the things i feel guilty about. kids are resilient and forgiving and don't remember half the shit you obsess about. go easy on yourself. happy mother's day