If you've never been in a spiritually abusive situation, it can be easy to ask, "Why didn't they say something?" regarding the ones who, for one reason or another, left that abusive system. (thread)

This isn't an exhaustive list, but here are a few reasons some may never say anything: 1)They are not ready to endure the possibility of additional trauma that might come with speaking out.

2)They have no evidence to offer besides their personal experiences and often, in Christian environments, reporting spiritual abuse is misunderstood and the victim is told they should meet with their abuser to talk it out. (the Matt 18 argument)

3)Members of spiritually abusive environments are often groomed to consider any negative accounts regarding the institution/leaders as gossip. This leaves the victim isolated as they deal with this hurt. Speaking up is framed as sinful gossip.

4)Some have been forced to sign NDA's.

5)Spiritual abuse can be complicated to explain if you don't know what it looks like. Speaking up may involve educating the listener about spiritual abuse. The last thing a hurting person wants to do is spend their energy convincing you their pain is legitimate.