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I’ve been wanting to share a story about my mom, but each time I’ve tried to write it out I stopped halfway through. But with Mother’s Day tomorrow I think it’s the best time to share it.
As many of y’all who follow me know, my mom passed away in March. She was graceful, beautiful, and above all else compassionate and loving. As the sun began setting she’d often say “the hardest part of this is leaving you guys.” That’s how selfless she was.
Of all the things to complain about lol. Anyway, in South Asian culture it’s normal to have an absos (mourning) period between death and the funeral. This time is really emotionally taxing as you’re not just mourning, but basically entertaining people at your house.
Mom was especially worried about how we’d hold up during absos. Well little did we know, she planned ways for us to still feel her love during that week. Knowing she couldn’t be there herself, she had her friends find us in private to relay her messages.
“Your mom wanted you to know she loves you.”
“Your mom wanted me to say that she is so proud of you”
And then her friends brought food.
“It’s been 3 days and your mom said I had to bring enchiladas”
“It’s the 4th day. Your mom wanted coffee and donuts”
“Your mom wanted me to say that she is so proud of you”
And then her friends brought food.
“It’s been 3 days and your mom said I had to bring enchiladas”
“It’s the 4th day. Your mom wanted coffee and donuts”
After the funeral I was scared, sad, nervous. Everything you can imagine feeling when you realize you have to live the rest of your life without your mom.
We get home and my dad gathers me and my sisters. He says: “There’s one last thing your mother wanted you three to have”.
We get home and my dad gathers me and my sisters. He says: “There’s one last thing your mother wanted you three to have”.
He gives us a bag and in it is a picture with her handwriting, and a jar filled with affirmations/mantras she wrote for us. For when she was gone. For when we missed her.
The ink is dry now, but if you look closely you can see it’s still fresh. I am so thankful to have experienced a love like hers. Even on the worst day of our lives she still found a way to be there for us.
I wish I could have all 26 of my mothers days with her back. I’ll settle for a 3:00pm cha, a hug, anything. I don’t know what your plans are tomorrow, but be present and celebrate those you love whenever you can.
