Today I learned that structurally oppressed communities must be very nice to people who do them harm. We must have nice private chats to the people who harm us, expending our emotional labour to make them comfortable, before we are allowed to disagree *even slightly* in public.

If we don’t have a direct line of contact or feel otherwise safe to have conversations, then we must keep quiet and only use Twitter to prop up people sharing harmful narratives because they can’t possibly have any room to grow or be expected to do better.

There may be additional requirements that the person who has done harm can impose at any time to restrict such chats, like not perceiving themselves as “BadGuyTM”, or having tweeted something nice to oppressed people once, or having an oppressed friend.

Please note that the new terminology for what was known as “gently calling in” has been updated to “calling out aggressively”.

Dear POC, disabled & queer folk, and other oppressed communities, please update your dictionaries accordingly.

This has been a PSA from YtFeminismInc.