While I’m at it, let’s address this elephant in the room.

A GREAT deal of the discussion about misogyny in romance circles is specifically about misogyny between women, or women being oppressive in others ways to other women, e.g. straight women to queer women.

Part of what habitual, unchallenged framing like “these women just worship dick” does is add credence to the perception that cis women generally favor trans women over other cis women (“society privileges dick”).

Have you ever been a trans woman in a cis women-centric group?

If you haven’t been, let me share some of my experience tends to be like.

It has no resemblance to worship.

You quickly become the repository for every kind of intra-gender misogyny those cis women have to direct at you.

But just like cis men tend to think women talking 20% of the time is dominating a conversation, cis women tend to intuitively perceive trans women as threatening for no reason.

You can see this reflected in a dozen interlocking ways, like the way deep voices, Adam’s apples, taller height, etc, become quickly attributed with frightening Hulk-like power.

Lots of cis women unconsciously entitled themselves to push trans women around because on some level they figure they’ve earned it. Nature gave trans women the better deal! Having a dick! Super strength! Taller! Huzzah!

Transmisogynistic aggression tends to have an air of resentment to it, a feeling of taking a bit of revenge against an order of power that flows out of nature, from bodies, and not from unjust society.

Ironically cis men do the same thing to us lol

Anyway framing the source of misogyny between women as an abstract external force (“dick” “biology” “nature”) is just a way to excuse intra-gender sexism and also subtly center problems of racism, transphobia, etc, in women-led communities back on white cis women.