Usually I meet someone and I can tell immediately how deep I can go with them.
I can tell when someone has a certain version of me in their head and they want to explore the superficial layers of me. But once they really get to know me they would feel scared by how deep, intimate, vulnerable and naked things would actually get.
Once people come to their limit on how deep into intimacy they want to go with you they usually create a situation where they self sabotage your relationship. It creates a way to escape the inevitable transformation of the entire being that happens when you go all the way.
One time someone in a relationship said to me, so basically, you want me to die and be reborn. I was like yeah pretty much.
Many times people come to the edge of awakening and turn back. Because of walking souls through the death and rebirth cycle of transformation and liberation so many times, it’s easy for me to see when someone is just not ready to go all the way.