Hi Tarie, please hide id. I have been dating this girl for 2 months and have invited her to my place at least 5 times. Each time I would cook, we eat and leave when it's time to go. What bothers me is that she doesn't help out w the dishes, cooking, peeling or anything #asktari

she will be watching tv. I honestly thought it's natural to help each other and I didn't know I have to literally ask bae to help out. At least she does take her plates to the sink but she comes back to more netflix and chill. I thought maybe she's just shy/not comfortable to

start doing dishes or cleaning after herself mumba memunhu so the next time she came (5th or 6th time I guess), I asked her to come help out with lunch then we can watch a movie afterwards. She came in the kitchen but she soon asked to use the mirror (which is in the bedroom).

I was like cool but hurry and come sort the veggies and stuff. She took time in the bedroom so i followed later and asked what's up? She mentioned something about her hair then I told her she gotta come help make lunch so we went back to the kitchen together and she did help out

eventually and lunch was good, we ate, we enjoyed. We had popcorns and lays while watching netflix and we made a mess. All over the place. I pointed out that this place is now a mess and she said yeah you are going to be in trouble cleaning this up. I said ahh why don't you sort

it out before you go and told her where the sweeping broom is. Fast-forward to 8pm that day and I am looking at a messy living room with popcorns and chips all over and in the kitchen- plates, cups lying around on the table and in the sink. I called her that night and told her

that as a woman I expect her to help out. I can't cook for her, do the dishes for her and then clean after her. She defended herself saying she didn't know I needed help and said I am being too harsh. Munotiwo kudii?

AT:Dont forget u are her host and she’s not obligated to help you with cleaning just because she’s a woman. You sound rather entitled Ko kungokumbira zvakanaka for help?If you dig deeper there is a reason she’s not lifting a figure-She’s done wife duties on a gf tender before