a white woman accidentally lifted the lid on the way white women talk to each other about women of color behind their backs and is now being FORCEFULLY confronted with how shitty she sounds, so it is WILD to watch her try this desperate, flailing "I'm still a feminist!" backtrack https://twitter.com/alisoneroman/status/1258947372060749824

this shitshow is truly a master class in all the ways white women are blind to racism that isn't, like, Big Obvious KKK-Type Shit

tfw you can't QUITE put your finger on why a woman of color doing something white women do constantly just . . . kinda rubs you the wrong way?

when i said "damn, bitch, you sold out immediately!" to marie kondo, what i was attempting to convey is that i support all women, apologies if i failed to effectively communicate that

i swear i'm not trying to be a bitch just to be a bitch but there is TRULY like so much going on here to unpack

alison roman is serving us a microaggressions BUFFET

like, first of things, there's directing a bullshit apology publicly at chrissy (marie is a footnote, of course, because marie didn't call her out on twitter) which puts all the burden of absolution/forgiveness onto chrissy or else CHRISSY will look like the one being petty

then, as Stephen and I have been discussing below, there's the INSANELY FRAUGHT history of the like Aspirational Domesticity-Industrial Complex, where privileged white women serve as the face and brand for labor which is actually being performed by people of color

(i'm old enough to remember when it was a scandal when we all learned that Martha Stewart did not, in fact, do most of her own gardening, she had a massive staff of Latinx laborers and then she basically like . . . posed next to their work for her magazine)

so like there is HISTORY behind this - white women graciously accepting applause at dinner parties for meals cooked by Black women is an image as American as the apple pie those white women weren't making

and then obviously now we have a whole restaurant industry of white colonizer chefs - frat bros "deconstructing" and "reviving" and "translating" indigenous, culturally-specific foods with rich and deep histories to make them appealing to white palates

so like, the fact that two unmistakably breakthrough figures in the historically white af realm of Aspirational Domesticity Branding are women of color CANNOT BE DIVORCED FROM THE CONVERSATIONS YOU HAVE ABOUT WHETHER OR NOT THEY ARE "SELLING OUT"

is Wolfgang Puck a sellout because, in addition to catering the Vanity Fair Oscar party, you can also buy his pizzas in your freezer section? is Martha Stewart a sellout because you can buy her scrapbook kits at Kmart? No, they're just entrepreneurs selling two separate brands

Is Isaac Mizrahi a sellout because he has a department store line? do you think that makes fewer people come to his couture runway shows? when a fashion designer makes some t-shirts for Target, are they selling out? this is literally just how the business of branding works!

and none of this is to say that chrissy teigen and marie kondo, as individual public figures, or the business of branded merch lines overall, is above critique!! it's just that you CANNOT have the conversation about women of color "selling out" without acknowledging racism

Chrissy Teigen has had to tap-dance backwards in high heels to corner a FRACTION of the market share affluent white women with palatial New England farmhouse estates have had cornered since the eighties, BECAUSE she is a woman of color. her uphill climb was so much steeper!

and i don't even KNOW SHIT, i'm just a basic white bitch who loves pastel kitchenware and RealSimple Magazine and making ribbon wreaths, but alison is a PROFESSIONAL FOOD WRITER for the NEW YORK TIMES, people of color have been writing about this for YEARS, she should KNOW this

you can't come for the First Lady of Twitter with your casual Karen bitchery and expect all the other white women in the room to just laugh at your jokes and let it go like they do in your group chat!!!!

contractually obligated "omg this went viral please buy my book" tweet, delivered with nothing but love for anyone who is boycotting Amazon, unfortunately the only place the paperback is for sale (indie e-readers and libraries have it, though!) https://www.amazon.com/Rewind-Files-Complete-Novel-ebook/dp/B014VMIVDU

I just had to mute so many “not all white women” oh my god I need a NAP