I need to use some nono words to make my point.
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Female dominants have been locked in a battle for our safety to try to convince people we are not *whores*.
The recent history is also pros saying they were not prostitutes, to avoid the laws and stigma against that role.

But it doesn't fix that role. And that is the funny thing about "whore", it has now come to mean sex worker, but it started closer to promiscuous.
And now a lot of the lifestyle/pro tension is again, lifestyle folks not wanting to be treated like a whore.
We say "sex worker", but

We mean we don't want to be treated like bad, sexual but disposable women who exist for (male) pleasure. But honestly I don't want pros to be treated like an untouchable caste.
I do want the chef/home cook distinction made. But I want to get a bit better than dodging a category.

The reason why companies like @instagram block #femdom as a tag, they will tell you, is to comply with laws against sex work that protect women. But self advertising female dominants *aren't in particular danger*.
Female dominance is so restricted because we are dis-empowered.

It isn't that the sex workers drown me out, it is that historically, survival depended on male control and thus their gaze, so the only kind of female sexual dominance that could exist in pop culture has gone through this filtre.

But ultimately, although I am not a sex worker, I am still the whore in the old sense of the word, a woman out of social control with her sexuality.