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It cannot be understated just how integral it is to a males confidence to have romantic practice, and a good understanding of gender and SMV, at a young age. Growing up, both me and all my friends had no idea why girls were never interested in us, and we were never told. (Thread)
I was talking to my old roommate, also my best friend, about this recently. He told me that, and I agreed, that we both felt it was almost child abuse how his parents NEVER intervened to help him when it came to girls growing up. Not ONCE did my roommate ever talk to girls, and
instead of being good parents, who told him the truth about female psychology, and how its natural that due to them always seeking the very best, that he would be left out, instead he felt unnaturally inferior, and extraordinarily unattractive when this was never really the case
My father wasn& #39;t as inattentive, as I had a much easier time with girls than my roommate had, however neither of us were given the hard truth about women and their differences. My sister and I, if the SMV of men and women were adjusted, are probably about the same. However,
not once did she ever not have an extremely tall, popular boyfriend all throughout her middle and highschool time we lived together, and I assumed she just got a "luckier draw" than I had. However, this was bizarre as all of her friends were also "extremely attractive blonde
girls" where as me and all my friends were "extremely normal, undating males" and I was never told that this was due to natural SMV differences, and this lack of information, and guidance, is totally defeating to a growing boys opinion of himself, and can be compared to child
abuse. A better culture would have fathers letting their sons know about this the day they turn 5 or 6, and set up healthy, supervised environments for the boys to learn and practice romantic courtship. But rather, what my roommate received was none of this, and he coped by
saying that "he just didnt need a girlfriend right now" or "he will get one in college" only to find that the OLDER he got, the LESS WOMEN he met. School, as it happens, is the only artificial environment where boys and girls are pushed together in a space, and it sucks
If you remove this, the school, you have nothing. It& #39;s not like we are going out meeting women in the public square, this relic of a pre-suburb era. Now as a successful businessman, making well into 6 figures,he still has absolutely no idea how to meet women and STILL has trouble
He waited too long, and his parents never did anything about it. Recently he told his dad how he felt, and that it was bad parenting on his part to not intervene sooner, his dad said to him "we wanted to let you figure it out, and who knows, maybe you werent interested in women"
What kind of father does this?! Assumes your son is gay because YOU didnt teach him the ropes??? This is how so many young men BECOME gay, they are pitted against hundreds of other boys their age in sick overly competitive school environments, and when nobody helps them figure
any of the stuff out, when they feel totally useless and inferior, they turn to anime and discord and tumblr and get totally sissy-hipno& #39;d up on porn. This is neglect. My friend told his dad this, but of course hes a blue-dog dem boomer who thinks literally zero parental
intervention in upringing is necessary so long as you "pay for college". This is the biggest boomer cope. The boomer will rake in money from cozy jobs that theyd had for 20 years, save up enough for a college education in that 20 years easily (less easily every day) and then
right off all the neglect and social alienation their child faces as not their problem. This is unforgiveable behavior and I will right this wrong by telling my own children all the truthes they need to understand themselves.
