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When you tell an Asian they’re attractive and then ask what their “mix” is. A thread:
1/ Now I know this happens to other POC too but something I’ve noticed as an Asian with more Euro-centric features, living in a predominantly white country is that a compliment about my attractiveness is followed by “what’s your mix?”
2/ When they ask what my “mix” is, the response they’re expecting is for me to name some European country and NOT another Asian country.
3/ And they expect an answer. Saying that I am ASIAN is not enough. If my response is “I’m from Hong Kong”, it is usually followed up with “yeah but you can’t JUST be Chinese right?”
4/ If I name an Asian country first, the response is “yeah I knew you looked Malaysian”. Wtf does that even mean? You do realise that Malaysia is multiracial? And do you even know where it is? No, Sam, it is not part of Thailand. And no, Connor, it’s not next to China.
5/ So I gotta tell people I’m part Jewish- which is TECHNICALLY true if you consider that the only person who is Jewish in my family died in the Ming dynasty. It’s like being 2% Black.
6/ But lemme tell you that YT people eat that shit up. That’s their “AHA GOTEM” moment. As if I intentionally tried to conceal information from them and they solved a case. Like congrats Sherlock on being able to play spot the difference man, real good job. Have a prize.
7/ In my time I’ve ignorantly responded with “I’m part Jewish” primarily for ease and to stop being heckled, but also due to an unspoken self loathing that I’ll be more accepted into a community if I have a common denominator.
8/ I’m attractive because I have features that are familiar and identifiable to you. I look more like you, than I look like my Asian counterparts. I don’t have “slitty eyes” or a “flat nose”.
9/ That’s fetishing and degrading because you see my race as a determining factor of my attractiveness and my relatability, which is somewhat understandable.
10/ If I were to tell you I’m part Spanish (for example), you could have a conversation about paella and talk about that time you went to Marbella or Aya Napa with “your mates”.
11/ If I say two Asian countries, all you have is that time you went to that full moon festival in Thailand, and how you’ve had that dish with rice which you’ve forgotten the name of but you’re sure it’s a reddish-brown curry and it was spicy, and I should know what it’s called.
12/ Unfortunately, I notice this back home too. We are taught even in Asian countries that being Wasian makes you more attractive and if someone is pretty it’s because of their white side.
Telling someone they’re attractive and then asking what their “mix” is is not a compliment to them. It’s a self compliment asshole. The only kinda exotic you’re getting is me going Joe Exotic on your ass. 
