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Quick summary-Men cheat:
-out of opportunity
-because women throw themselves on them
-most “females” are interested in taken men
- after 35, women “expire” (kupera kuti dhu
)
-blurred lines b/t friend zone/situationship/commitment
-cheating is anything you hide from your SO
-out of opportunity
-because women throw themselves on them
-most “females” are interested in taken men
- after 35, women “expire” (kupera kuti dhu
) -blurred lines b/t friend zone/situationship/commitment
-cheating is anything you hide from your SO
1. Accountability- if a woman moves to you and you are taken, it is your responsibility to say so. Not doing so means you are accountable. You can have tact in letting her down too. A simple “ma’am, I’m not interested” and you move.
This whole “saving face” when someone is moving to you is bogus. You’re gonna let someone twerk on you to save face but when some of you are harassing women who told you no multiple times, you hurl insults loud and clear for all to hear. Where’s the saving face then?
2. Communication- state what you want to each other. You are not in an open relationship if the other party has not consented to that. If you’re just kicking it together, state that out loud. State exclusivity as well. Talk clearly because a lot of you enjoy the blurred lines...
Coz you don’t want to be accountable for shit. Also we need to practice leaving what does not serve us fast. If you want exclusivity and fam doesn’t, don’t stay thinking they’ll change. Hell, they may even say they’ll try. It’s hard and it hurts, I know but free yourself beloved.
3. WE NEED COMPREHENSIVE SEX EDUCATION- You can’t weaponize our bodies yet you also don’t take responsibility for your actions. There are too many grown people misinformed about their sexual health, sexuality and consent. Please.
4a. Patriarchy- Many men acknowledge there is a double standard for women. When mans said, “women expire” he mentioned there is also a greater societal pressure for us more so than men. Fair. My issue is that that imbalance is recognized by everyone but no one willing address it.
4b. Complacency- We are the society that uphold that pressure and so we can change it no? The truth is men will never change it coz it benefits them. You enjoy the status quo and any woman that challenges that is called a whore.
A lot of “truths” and hot takes from the men weren’t new. Y’all acknowledged that things weren’t right but there was no interest to change to make our society/cultural/ relationships more equitable for women.
Even when talking about balance between partners, what does that look like? You want submission, for her to cook, clean, raise children, fuck and for her to pay the bills so we can be “equal.” It’s never enough.
Hamudi kuchinja zvachose. It’s not the oldies this time. You can’t blame them for no changes in sexism, misogynoir, bigotry, social ideals, etc. It’s you now. And it is really upsetting me and my homegirls fr fr.
