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Reasons Why I Think I& #39;m Bad At Sex: A Thread
I& #39;m not saying this because I believe so little of myself. I& #39;m actually working on self deprecating less and less. But I say I& #39;m bad at sex for two main reasons.
1: I don& #39;t have enough of it. I legitimately do not have enough sex.
I& #39;m not saying this because I believe so little of myself. I& #39;m actually working on self deprecating less and less. But I say I& #39;m bad at sex for two main reasons.
1: I don& #39;t have enough of it. I legitimately do not have enough sex.
This is mostly due to my relative low libido and overall desire for interaction. Idk if this is a side effect of my social anxiety or of my BPD, but when the opportunity comes to hook up/meet w/a FWB (something that doesn& #39;t happen often) I usually end up turning it down.
Using this logic, you could argue that I just don& #39;t get enough "practice" at it. Although typing this out, I& #39;m laughing. Because it& #39;s not the primary reason I believe I& #39;m bad at it (but it is kinda one of)
I honestly have been trying to circumvent that, even before covid-19.
I honestly have been trying to circumvent that, even before covid-19.
And reason number 2:
I don& #39;t find it as enjoyable as I feel like I should.
Yes, I have had some AMAZING sex in my adult life. Quite a few guys I& #39;ve hooked up with have set the bar decently high. But I could also just be having really awful sex. Or I guess disappointing
I don& #39;t find it as enjoyable as I feel like I should.
Yes, I have had some AMAZING sex in my adult life. Quite a few guys I& #39;ve hooked up with have set the bar decently high. But I could also just be having really awful sex. Or I guess disappointing
There& #39;s a number of factors in play w/that. Maybe I& #39;m getting unrealistic expectation from the porn I view. Maybe my fantasies are beyond realistic capabilities.
But maybe Im just not as sexual of a person as I wish. Which is so fucking frustrating.
Not to mention, confusing
But maybe Im just not as sexual of a person as I wish. Which is so fucking frustrating.
Not to mention, confusing
Especially to those that I DO have an interest sexually in. Because some days I have that really high libido. But most days, I just don& #39;t. And it leads to awkward conversations and to them believing I& #39;m not interested.
9/10 times I would rather just j/o for 5-10 mins vs hookups
9/10 times I would rather just j/o for 5-10 mins vs hookups
And I hate that. I really do.
Yet everytime I schedule a hookup or something, when it comes time to get ready or something, I just cancel. Respectfully, actually. I never ghost.
Idk I& #39;m just kinda rambling now I guess.
I wish I knew how to work on this, honestly
End thread.
Yet everytime I schedule a hookup or something, when it comes time to get ready or something, I just cancel. Respectfully, actually. I never ghost.
Idk I& #39;m just kinda rambling now I guess.
I wish I knew how to work on this, honestly
End thread.
