Reasons Why I Think I'm Bad At Sex: A Thread

I'm not saying this because I believe so little of myself. I'm actually working on self deprecating less and less. But I say I'm bad at sex for two main reasons.

1: I don't have enough of it. I legitimately do not have enough sex.

This is mostly due to my relative low libido and overall desire for interaction. Idk if this is a side effect of my social anxiety or of my BPD, but when the opportunity comes to hook up/meet w/a FWB (something that doesn't happen often) I usually end up turning it down.

Using this logic, you could argue that I just don't get enough "practice" at it. Although typing this out, I'm laughing. Because it's not the primary reason I believe I'm bad at it (but it is kinda one of)

I honestly have been trying to circumvent that, even before covid-19.

And reason number 2:
I don't find it as enjoyable as I feel like I should.

Yes, I have had some AMAZING sex in my adult life. Quite a few guys I've hooked up with have set the bar decently high. But I could also just be having really awful sex. Or I guess disappointing

There's a number of factors in play w/that. Maybe I'm getting unrealistic expectation from the porn I view. Maybe my fantasies are beyond realistic capabilities.

But maybe Im just not as sexual of a person as I wish. Which is so fucking frustrating.

Not to mention, confusing

Especially to those that I DO have an interest sexually in. Because some days I have that really high libido. But most days, I just don't. And it leads to awkward conversations and to them believing I'm not interested.

9/10 times I would rather just j/o for 5-10 mins vs hookups

And I hate that. I really do.

Yet everytime I schedule a hookup or something, when it comes time to get ready or something, I just cancel. Respectfully, actually. I never ghost.

Idk I'm just kinda rambling now I guess.
I wish I knew how to work on this, honestly

End thread.