an “in no particular order” thread on why I say subs always have the most power in a D/s relationship: Villaneve edition:

the fact that V climbed over the seat to get to E. like tactically, she registered that Eve would probably use her feet to kick if she came at her from a different angle, but also THE POWER that Eve had by choosing to remain seated instead of running. she LET Villanelle maneuver

until she was on top/seemingly had the upper hand. I mean... WHAT? & then, Villanelle saw the “kiss me” eyes that Eve gave her but she refrained, wanting Eve to make the first move. which she did because V knows that it’s always better when they come willingly (no pun intended)

again in no particular order, if we go back to the first season finale when the two babes were in bed, Eve laid back and stared at the ceiling KNOWING that Villanelle would refuse the opportunity to kill her. I’ll go into more detail tomorrow when I’m not as drunk

AND WE’RE BACK! before the ceiling contemplation, Eve told Villanelle to sit, so she sat. and it has a lot to do with the fact that Eve does have power over her (thought at times like these, we remember that it’s because V gave her that power). afterwards, Eve explains just how

much she is affected by Villanelle. thinking about her physical attributes as well as her mental and emotional well-being. and really this is the first time they emotionally consummate their relationship because Eve initiated it. if she hadn’t, V would have continued to just be

a little shit that kept Eve awake at night with her taunting and metaphorical pulling of Eve’s pigtails.

the most important emotional consummation of their relationship, though, is really when Villanelle comes to kill Eve (in fucking Alexander McQueen couture no less). Eve is still the one with the power because while Villanelle has the strength to snap Eve’s neck like a twig, she

pulls Eve close and HAS to ask “will you give me everything I want?” Eve has the power to say “no. you’ll get me this info and I’ll give you NOTHING”. but she instead she says yes. with that, their relationship is emotionally consummated to its fullest extent.

a true Dom should want their sub so incredibly bad that they are willing to do anything. it’s not all about spanking and choking (although, I gotta admit those are some of my favorite things), but the WANT, the YEARNING, the TENSION & the CONNECTION is what it’s really all about.

Villanelle, in my opinion, is still the Dom in all of this despite her getting what you guys call “soft” when Eve throws her off her game. I’m a Dom in my (sort of) relationship and I still get all squishy and soft when not-bae pulls me against her and rubs my back or scratches

my hair. you tell me what person WOULDNT? I don’t think it’s so much of her being “soft”, but her being OPEN ENOUGH to receive what Eve gives her. and because she isn’t used to these squishy feelings, it throws her off her game and she doesn’t know how to react. so her default is

“ what is this squishy feeling? and why do I like it?”

anyway, I’ll probably come up with more when I start my rewatch this week, so I’ll pin this thread.