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How to Become an Alpha Male Who Women and Other Men Respect
If you ask 10 guys if they want to become an alpha male; 5 would likely say ‘yes’ and the other 5 would say they’re already an alpha male.
If you ask 10 guys if they want to become an alpha male; 5 would likely say ‘yes’ and the other 5 would say they’re already an alpha male.
But the truth is a lot of men don’t really know what it means to be an alpha male. Most people think it’s by being muscular, loud and doing whatever pleases you not minding whether you’re hurting other people.
That’s not who an alpha is and in this post I’ll explain
That’s not who an alpha is and in this post I’ll explain
what it really means to be an alpha male.
HOW THE ALPHA MALE THINGY STARTED
Now, let’s go back to the origin of the term, “alpha male.” The use of this terminology actually started as scientists were studying animal behavior especially the males. So,
HOW THE ALPHA MALE THINGY STARTED
Now, let’s go back to the origin of the term, “alpha male.” The use of this terminology actually started as scientists were studying animal behavior especially the males. So,
they used these terminologies to differentiate animals based on their behavior.
These terminologies include:
Alpha [The leader]
Beta [Second in command]
Gamma
Delta
Omega [least member in the group]
Nomad [This term is used for an animal that usually goes alone.
These terminologies include:
Alpha [The leader]
Beta [Second in command]
Gamma
Delta
Omega [least member in the group]
Nomad [This term is used for an animal that usually goes alone.
He doesn’t hang around in groups]
Now, let’s take a wolf as an example. Wolves exist in groups called Packs.
The alpha wolf is the leader of the pack. He leads and the other wolves in the pack follow.
Now, let’s take a wolf as an example. Wolves exist in groups called Packs.
The alpha wolf is the leader of the pack. He leads and the other wolves in the pack follow.
He also protects and looks out for the pack. And he has access to the top female wolves in the pack.
The beta wolf is the second in command like a vice president. He assists the alpha to run the pack efficiently.
The beta wolf is the second in command like a vice president. He assists the alpha to run the pack efficiently.
He takes charge of the pack when the alpha wolf is not around or is killed.
Gamma, Delta and Omega wolves are other members of the pack in descending order of hierarchy.
Nomad, on the other hand, popularly known as the lone wolf, belongs to no pack.
Gamma, Delta and Omega wolves are other members of the pack in descending order of hierarchy.
Nomad, on the other hand, popularly known as the lone wolf, belongs to no pack.
However, he can easily become an alpha of a pack; if he could challenge and defeat the current alpha of that pack; thereby taking over the pack.
WHAT THIS MEANS FOR YOU
This means to become a true alpha male; you’ve to become a leader. That is, you’ve to know how to lead.
WHAT THIS MEANS FOR YOU
This means to become a true alpha male; you’ve to become a leader. That is, you’ve to know how to lead.
Now, this doesn’t necessarily mean you’ve to lead a large group of people, no. The thing is, where there are two or more people hanging together; there’s always a leader.
In every clique of friends; there is always a leader there.
In every clique of friends; there is always a leader there.
Pay attention from now in groups of friends; both boys and girls; you’ll likely observe who is the leader, second in command and the omega.
However, this doesn’t mean you should not be a follower to other leaders. Being a follower doesn’t make you less of an alpha male.
However, this doesn’t mean you should not be a follower to other leaders. Being a follower doesn’t make you less of an alpha male.
To succeed in life; you must follow others. Even your role models and mentors also have their own role models and mentors.
Truth is, most great leaders began as followers—but not just as mere followers, rather as intelligent followers.
Truth is, most great leaders began as followers—but not just as mere followers, rather as intelligent followers.
So, what actually makes you an alpha male is having leadership qualities.
THREE FORMS OF LEADERSHIP
There are three basic types of leadership:
1) Autocratic Leadership: In this type of leadership, the leader makes every decision solely by himself.
THREE FORMS OF LEADERSHIP
There are three basic types of leadership:
1) Autocratic Leadership: In this type of leadership, the leader makes every decision solely by himself.
He neither listens nor tolerates any contrary opinion from his followers. In simpler words, this is the leadership by force.
2) Laissez Faire Leadership: This sort of leadership allows total freedom to the followers. The leader is lenient to a fault.
2) Laissez Faire Leadership: This sort of leadership allows total freedom to the followers. The leader is lenient to a fault.
He allows his followers to do whatsoever they want, whenever they want it. He doesn’t make it clear there are limits.
3) Democratic Leadership: In democratic style of leadership, the leader makes it clear that everyone has roles and limits.
3) Democratic Leadership: In democratic style of leadership, the leader makes it clear that everyone has roles and limits.
However, he entertains opinions from his followers before he makes a major decision and he genuinely cares about the well-being of his followers.
Democratic leadership is the most efficient of the three and the one which would make you a true alpha male.
Democratic leadership is the most efficient of the three and the one which would make you a true alpha male.
QUALITIES OF A DEMOCRATIC LEADER
Below are some of the leadership qualities every alpha male should possess
1) Self-Control: A good leader has great self-discipline to control himself. During time of crises/problems, he doesn’t freak out and start throwing tantrums at everyone.
Below are some of the leadership qualities every alpha male should possess
1) Self-Control: A good leader has great self-discipline to control himself. During time of crises/problems, he doesn’t freak out and start throwing tantrums at everyone.
Instead he remains calm, cool and immediately seeks solutions to the problems. Only when you’ve learned how to control yourself, can you control and lead others effectively.
2) Decisiveness: An alpha male always has an idea of what he wants in every situation; hence he reaches
2) Decisiveness: An alpha male always has an idea of what he wants in every situation; hence he reaches
decision fast and changes his decision slowly. Someone who is indecisive cannot be a leader.
3) Self-Confidence: A man who is not self-confident cannot be courageous enough to lead others. You must believe in yourself and in your
3) Self-Confidence: A man who is not self-confident cannot be courageous enough to lead others. You must believe in yourself and in your
capabilities before you become an effective leader.
4) Vision: In order to lead people; you’ve to know where you’re going or what you wish to achieve. You should always have a clear picture in your head.
5) Integrity: A great leader has integrity.
4) Vision: In order to lead people; you’ve to know where you’re going or what you wish to achieve. You should always have a clear picture in your head.
5) Integrity: A great leader has integrity.
That is, he is a man of his words. He is trustworthy.
HOW TO BECOME AN ALPHA MALE
The below steps will provide a guide which help you become the true alpha.
1) Know your Tolerance Limit
You should always know what you cannot take from women and people in general.
HOW TO BECOME AN ALPHA MALE
The below steps will provide a guide which help you become the true alpha.
1) Know your Tolerance Limit
You should always know what you cannot take from women and people in general.
Never let anyone be comfortable disrespecting you.
However, gracefully communicate your boundaries to people. Don’t blurt it out and start raising your voice to show you don’t like the behavior. Most times, a subtle nonverbal communication is enough.
However, gracefully communicate your boundaries to people. Don’t blurt it out and start raising your voice to show you don’t like the behavior. Most times, a subtle nonverbal communication is enough.
For instance, you’re talking with a girl and she’s being rude or making silly remarks which you don’t like. Instead of shouting at her to caution her; you could easily withdraw your attention from her and start talking with another girl or person.
Maybe a girl cuts the call on you; instead of barking at her the next time you see her; you could just stop calling her. And when she asks why you don’t call again; you could calmly tell her that you didn’t think she wanted to hear from you again since she cut the
call last time you two spoke on the phone.
In the above scenarios you’ve communicated clearly that you won’t tolerate those attitudes---without having to be dramatic about it.
In the above scenarios you’ve communicated clearly that you won’t tolerate those attitudes---without having to be dramatic about it.
2) Don’t Be a Try Hard
As a male ape rises in status, he becomes more subtle. If you’ve gone to the zoo or seen animal movies involving apes you’ll notice the most dominant gorilla doesn’t jump around trying to impress people or other apes rather he sits so calmly at one corner.
As a male ape rises in status, he becomes more subtle. If you’ve gone to the zoo or seen animal movies involving apes you’ll notice the most dominant gorilla doesn’t jump around trying to impress people or other apes rather he sits so calmly at one corner.
It is only these lesser dominant apes which jump from one place to another.
Hence, to be an alpha male, you should stop trying so hard to impress people especially in socializing situations. Never be the entertainer.
Hence, to be an alpha male, you should stop trying so hard to impress people especially in socializing situations. Never be the entertainer.
Just be the guy who is warm, calm, listens more and contributes intelligently whenever necessary.
3) Don’t Bully Others: Instead Build them up
As you know an alpha male is mainly about possessing leadership qualities. A good leader doesn’t beat people down;
3) Don’t Bully Others: Instead Build them up
As you know an alpha male is mainly about possessing leadership qualities. A good leader doesn’t beat people down;
instead he builds up them up. He criticizes less and compliments more; he inspires.
So, a jerk that always derives fun in showing how weak and irrelevant others are compared to himself is not an alpha.
So, a jerk that always derives fun in showing how weak and irrelevant others are compared to himself is not an alpha.
A man who shows how big he is by showing how small other men are; is not an alpha male—he is just a poseur.
And most men won’t respect him for long and quality women won’t be attracted to him.
And most men won’t respect him for long and quality women won’t be attracted to him.
Observe every great leader you know; you’ll realize that he motivates and inspires people more rather than beating them down.
Hence, you should learn to inspire people more rather than criticizing them.
Hence, you should learn to inspire people more rather than criticizing them.
4) Move Fast:
There was a video I watched sometime ago. A herd of wild cattle were running and a lioness was aiming to pick one out. She was waiting for the right moment, so was very hesitant. Suddenly, a male lion from nowhere jumped in and clamped down one cow immediately.
There was a video I watched sometime ago. A herd of wild cattle were running and a lioness was aiming to pick one out. She was waiting for the right moment, so was very hesitant. Suddenly, a male lion from nowhere jumped in and clamped down one cow immediately.
This is the same with alpha men; they don’t waste unnecessary time.
If they see a girl they like; they approach her immediately. They don’t waste time trying to exchange thousand texts and calls with a girl before they ask her out on an offline date.
If they see a girl they like; they approach her immediately. They don’t waste time trying to exchange thousand texts and calls with a girl before they ask her out on an offline date.
They don’t hesitate to pitch their business idea to a prospective investor. Alpha men don’t have self-doubts.
So, if you wish to become an alpha male, you’ve to let go of all timidity and shyness. Replace them with boldness, persistence and assertiveness.
So, if you wish to become an alpha male, you’ve to let go of all timidity and shyness. Replace them with boldness, persistence and assertiveness.
HOW BEING AN ALPHA MALE AFFECTS YOUR INTERACTIONS WITH WOMEN
Women are naturally wired to be attracted to men who can take charge and lead. Once, they notice you’re that kind of man; they become warmer with you; respect you and allow you to bed them easily.
Women are naturally wired to be attracted to men who can take charge and lead. Once, they notice you’re that kind of man; they become warmer with you; respect you and allow you to bed them easily.
Summary
Being an alpha male is not necessarily about having a muscular body physique or by being overly loud or bullying other men. No, not at all.
Being an alpha is about possessing leadership qualities (self-control, decisiveness, self-confidence, vision, and integrity)
Being an alpha male is not necessarily about having a muscular body physique or by being overly loud or bullying other men. No, not at all.
Being an alpha is about possessing leadership qualities (self-control, decisiveness, self-confidence, vision, and integrity)
And you can become this man by:
• Knowing what you can and cannot tolerate from people and communicating it gracefully.
• Not being a try hard
• Inspiring and motivating more instead of criticizing.
•Moving fast and always entering action with boldness.
• Knowing what you can and cannot tolerate from people and communicating it gracefully.
• Not being a try hard
• Inspiring and motivating more instead of criticizing.
•Moving fast and always entering action with boldness.
