Abusers act so normal in front of other people, it's hilarious

I have to laugh now for all the times I felt helpless when they would put on an entirely different personality for people that knew us both. It was like watching someone try to win actress/actor of the year.

Now I just look at them like the crazy person they really are.

The worst part of it is having to play along, really.

I hope I'm not minimizing anybody by saying it's hilarious, what I'm necessarily referring to is the fact these people have to PRETEND to be a decent person instead of just BEING a decent person.

They're actually pathetic.

I absolutely agree with people that it is scary. It's scary because you're isolated and people don't know what goes on behind closed doors, and even if they do, they ignore it because they manipulate everyone around them into turning a blind eye or claim that you deserve it.

When you become silenced because of the abuse, the abuser takes the first opportunity to twist any fucking narrative about it that they can. They've already done the most in telling others and YOU that you're the problem, you're a liar, that they are such a nice person—

That's just further isolates you especially when you have mutual associates coming to you to bargain with YOUR boundaries on the abuser's behalf which destroys your trust in them.

Add in stalking, threats of physical violence against you or s**c*de, blackmail, love bombing apologies—They won't let you live or breathe without looking over your shoulder.

None of that is funny, but the abuser is a fucking JOKE.