You're killing yourself trying to make it work with them. Killing yourself to fix it. To fix them. To save them. IMAGINE if you put even a fraction of all that precious energy, time, effort, and emotions towards fixing YOURSELF. Fix you. You need healing too. You need love too.

Did you ever stop to think that you're distracting yourself with their issues? Their problems? You want to save them, heal them, and fix them so fucking badly because you don't want to have to face the person in the mirror who is hurting too. Pour some of that love into you.

and listen to me here, when someone has our pity, we let them get away with anything

we let so much disrespect slide because we care so fucking much and we know that they're not okay..I GET IT but still, don't you deserve some love and effort too? some care? what about you?

When you give and give and give and give and tolerate and bite your tongue and give and help and save and fix...you're going to be the one that's left empty. Empty. A shell of a person. You're giving to someone who can only take. You focusing on them is abandoning yourself.

Don't let your compassion, empathy and fear of being "selfish," keep you pouring into someone who gives you nothing.

If you're selfish for saving yourself, then fuck it..you're selfish. But it actually means you've decided that it's time to care about YOUR feelings. Finally.

....you can be addicted to someone's pain

it doesn't mean you're some sick or twisted monster

it just means that you're seeking an escape from yourself, your life, your situation, how you feel about yourself