Female-Led-Relationship, an attempt to explain (thread)

There is no one way, this is exclusively my opinion.

FLR - A romantic heterosexual relationship, in which the female has control over the male to a greater or lesser extent. -Urban Dictonary -

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FLR is a lifestyle relationship model in which the woman takes the lead so that both achieve satisfaction, happiness and fulfillment in the partnership.

Actually, it’s an old concept, there were anytime relationships where “she wears the trousers”, but unlike these ones ...

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or the matriarchy, as a social concept with norms, you have and need a more open communication and explicit consensus for an FLR.

The reasons to establish an FLR can be of course as different as people are and don't necessarily have to contain a kinky component.

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I can imagine an FLR where nobody is dominant or submissive.
Why shouldn’t she rule the partnership and also like to bottom in the bedroom? Why shouldn’t he accept her decisions and like “conventional” sex?

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It’s the agreement between equal partners that the relationship can develop its full potential if one calls the shots and the insight that the woman is best suited to do that.
That her leadership acts always in the best interests of both.

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That this model avoids arguments, establishes a better communication, makes this relationship successful, especially with the trust both are building. Both working on a bright future together.
How they do it, which rules they establish, is completely their choice and decision.
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Together they are building the fundament, so both are living their best life together.
In my view it’s a unit with two parts, completing each other.

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I look at it as the “vanilla” equivalent or complementation of a D/s.
It’s the desired model for a dominant woman and a submissive man in my view.
The role of the counsellor, gentleman, sub, maid, devotee, helper, boy toy, etc. (in parts or all together) is very attractive ...
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for a sub. Not only to be the Goddess in the sheets (simplification!) but to have real power in the partnership, outside of kink, is real Femdom and real empowerment.

An FLR is in my opinion contemporary and the necessary adaption in modern times.

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Don’t get me wrong, a D/s is not less, both concepts overlap when lived by a dominant woman and a sub. A lot of the mentioned points are also found in a D/s. And D/s makes it easier to establish an FLR through protocols and rules, invented in bdsm.

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But from the theory, bdsm is the try to establish a ruleset for safe kink play, some call it fantasy play. An FLR can be the logical progression; a lifestyle concept integrating feminism, empowerment, equality, love, power exchange, kink, a wonderful life together, ....

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a rock fest relationship, a deeper level of trust; it’s what you want to make out of it.

Living the dream as one.

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Again, this is solely my opinion and a work in progress.
There is no one way, I know a lot of people have different opinions.

I wrote it down for myself and to give my wonderful wife, Mistress and boss @c0h0r0 a view of my thoughts.