While we’re here:

dating colorist men makes you complicit in perpetuating and validating misogynoir.

There is nothing innocent about lighter-skinned women leveraging their access and proximity to Black cis-het men by investing time, energy and resources into upholding the expectations of cis-heteronormative beauty standards.

No, it’s not your fault because you’re pretty, it’s your responsability to divest from these toxic dynamics because you being deemed pretty is a gateway for colorist men to dehumanize other women for not absorbing the same standards that give you access to privileges.

Babe, you’re either an apologist or an ally.

Can’t be the devils advocate and a savior simultaneously. I am not sorry, I didn’t make these rules up.